All along I have been pretty open about what were going through. Most of our family and close friends know we are going through IVF. Somethings I keep private because Mark has asked me to. I have never felt ashamed or private about this infertility crap. I’m not a private person but Mark is so I have to find a balance with what I say.
So Saturday I went to a baby shower for a neighbor who was having her 3rd girl in less then 5 years. I know that’s a whole other post. But I went because I like her and one of my best friends went with too. The party was thrown by pregnant lady’s mothers group. So I was the only one out of 12 that didn’t have a child or children. I knew the question was coming so I just waited for it. And….within 30 minutes of arriving another pregnant woman asked me “Do you have any children?” Nope “Do you want to have children?” Yes very badly but I have infertility issues and have gone through 2 IVF’s so far. “Oh I am sorry I have a girlfriend that went through it to a couple times and now has twins.” We continued to chat about life, her child, future child, etc.
I felt so free just to speak my truth. She may have been the 1st stranger I just answered honestly and I have to say I loved it. In fact it might become my go to answer when folks ask about the kid situation. Does anyone want to send me a badge of courage like the cowardly lion. You don’t have to be in the land of Oz to find your courage.